Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Carlos, CA - Stan Graubart, MFTStan Graubart, MFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

License # MFC 24244

If you’re looking to identify, explore, and work through the subconscious thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that are keeping you from enjoying the relationships and life you want, professional counseling and psychotherapy can help.

Even if you’re aware of the self-imposed obstacles and limitations you face, learning to cope with and overcome them is much easier when done in cooperation with a professional who is adept at helping people better understand themselves, break down resistances, and effectively solve problems.

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I consider working with clients to help them improve their quality of life extremely important, and I take full responsibility and commitment to be the best therapist I can possibly be.

I have embraced this professional role for over 30 years, beginning with my training as a psychology student, trainee, and intern, and on into my professional licensure as a Marriage and Family Therapist and launching my private practice in 1988.

Providing professional counseling and psychotherapy services to individuals who really want to create the change they seek is extremely important to me, and I feel privileged to be able to help individual adolescents and adults, couples, and families learn to appreciate who they are and create the relationships and lives they desire.

How I Work

I offer my clients honest, empathic collaboration in the work we do together so they know they are respected and understood as we work towards achieving their goals.

Because each of us is truly unique, I don’t believe any one treatment method or technique is best suited, or even applicable, to every individual. Therefore, I take what’s often called a client-centered, “eclectic approach” to counseling and psychotherapy.

The work I do with clients draws on various aspects of attachment theory, cognitive-behavioral and other solution-focused forms of treatment, as well as psychodynamic methods to create a custom approach that is tailored to each client.

If we choose to work together, we’ll both create a treatment plan that encompasses whatever techniques will best address your unique needs and goals.

As an adjunct to therapy, I also allow clients to bring their dogs to counseling sessions if and when they choose to do so.

A Little More About Me…

Prior to becoming a therapist, I was a high school teacher, counselor, department head and community college counselor.

My interests include politics and current events, following the San Francisco 49ers, Giants, and Warriors, as well as reading, listening to jazz music, and socializing with friends.

I’m continuously striving to be a devoted and loving husband and a happy, healthy person who is always seeking to improve my knowledge and understanding of myself, others, and the world in which we live.

Another important part of my life are my two dogs, Gigi and Monique, whom I enjoy walking and playing with on a daily basis.

That having been said, being a Marriage and Family Therapist is my life’s passion.

I frequently attend more than the required number of seminars and workshops to maintain my license and further my education. Additionally, I’m regularly involved in extensive reading, research, and consultation in order to be able to deliver the highest-quality therapeutic work to my clients.

Doing this work helps me to feel positive, energized, and motivated and I hope learning to create the change you seek helps you to feel the same.


  • Certificate: Alcohol & Drug Studies (144-hour program), University of California, Santa Cruz – 1990
  • Marriage and Family Therapy License – 1988
  • M.A., Marriage, Family and Child Counseling (graduated with high honors), Santa Clara University – 1985
  • Pupil, Personnel Credential (required for high school counseling), University of San Francisco – 1964
  • M.A., Business (graduated with honors), San Francisco State University – 1962
  • B.A., Business – 1957
  • A.A., Transportation – 1952

I also hold the following life-time credentials:

  • High School General Secondary, Pupil Personnel and Business Teacher
  • Community College Professor of Counseling Emeritus

Professional and Community Organizations/Affiliations:

In addition to my formal and continuing education, I’m also an active member of the following professional organizations, which provide me access to additional research articles and workshops and allow me to network with other professionals:

  • California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists – member since 1988
  • Santa Clara Valley Chapter, Marriage and Family Therapists – member since 1988

Workshops Presented:

In addition to attending numerous workshops and seminars each year – including studying under such luminaries as John Gottman, David Burns, Susan Johnson, Dan Wiles and David Schnarch – I have also presented workshops and seminars on the following topics:

  • Dual-Career Couples and Families (John Muir Medical Center)
  • Single-Parent Families (Peninsula Hospital)
  • Stress Management (Skyline Community College)
  • Couples Effective Communication/Conflict Resolution (Pacific Athletic Club and Crystal Springs Nursery Cooperative)

Please feel free to contact me at 650-595-2698 or with any questions you have or to schedule a free consultation. I look forward to speaking with you.